Wednesday, May 23, 2007

You can stop feeling sorry for me

There was a big storm here while I was sick. The doors kept slamming with the wind, and the sea sounded like it was tearing the beach apart. It's not all calm yet, but everything is very bright and shiny and washed clean. A bit like me. But still, the swell is strong.

Do you get that funny burning sensation in your nose when you're trying not to cry?

My dad says it's better to talk about your (bad) past experiences in 3rd person. So they don't/ won't effect you so much. He read that somewhere.

Thank-you Erin Brockovich, Elaine, George, Jerry, John Maclain... all the distractors, when reading was impossible.

And thanks to all of you out there who actually passed a thought my way. It worked.

10 Comments:

Anonymous Tamra said...

Tui~

So glad the storm is over (or abating). You were often in my thoughts in the hours of yesterday.

For what it is worth, I think that speaking/thinking of our first hand experiences in the third person serves to depersonalize the experience. This can indeed be helpful, but it can also be equally harmful as it can encourage disassociation and let's face it, at some point it all comes back and you have to deal with it anyway. My two cents.

Keep us updated.

Hugs,

Tamra

6:47 PM  
Blogger c2much said...

Reading your posts I realize what I've suspected all along. People can lead totally different lifestyles and be not so different at all. Sometimes life seems to be a shame

11:08 PM  
Blogger Jessie said...

I read about that storm on the news. They called it a "weather bomb". Glad to hear things are improving x

12:43 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

And your always totally excellent writing is even more subtle and moving already!

Orv

(Personally, when I cleaned up, I was astonished by how wonderful mornings could be.)

7:20 PM  
Blogger havemycake said...

maybe we come to resemble the landscape around us? i'm big on myth of place, so i think yes...

6:18 PM  
Blogger IVY said...

Interesting. I'll have to try the third person thing.. even if people do think I'm crazy. Maybe that's for people who have a hard time getting distance from their problems..

7:54 PM  
Blogger Erik Donald France said...

I like the third person past tense idea. Best wishes, Tui. My intent to quit smoking seems pretty lame by comparison.

6:09 PM  
Blogger tui said...

erik,
ciggies have their own mindgames. particularly, the ease and accessiblity.
and that fact they're everywhere you look...
luck to you.
t

7:55 PM  
Blogger Stefanie said...

Movies and TV shows take a dire cast when you're sick. It's like you form a strange bond with them - the lighting and direction as well as the actors themselves.

I like that you have Erin Brockovich to thank! Ha! Dope has nothing on hexavalent chromium, does it?
Now that is some nasty shit.

Good luck to you each minute of each day. You're free.

3:00 AM  
Blogger tui said...

Thanks Stef,

it really does feel good to be free.

During, I never thought I would be able to write, or say that, and mean it. Ever.

But finally, it's true.

2:07 AM  

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